we have a discord room, but you need to have a certain number of posts to access it.
We generally add people when we know them well enough. The arbitrary number we've set for this is 30 posts, though it varies from case to case
When we transferred to the new forum, we had to manually assign permissions to all existing members. We probably missed you during that time, my apologies. This is fixed now. You can find the link to the Discord server in the section Information.
Our discord server is a great place to get to know people better. Be careful though, instant messaging services are a lot different from the forum itself, people show faces they don't show on the forum etc.Speaking from experience.