The Gang of Five
Beyond the Mysterious Beyond => The Fridge => Topic started by: The Great Valley Guardian on April 16, 2008, 01:09:09 PM
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My pet Corn snake Rexington J. Lee died last night at around 8:42, but wasn't realized until around midnight. I loved him like a little brother, and although I will have my memories of the time we shared...but to just know that I won't be able to hold him in my hands again tears at my heart, even now...I want to cry I really do...but out of love and respect for him...I can't...does that make me a bad owner?
Just thought I share this with you all. :cry :cry
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Never easy to lose a loved one, pet or relative. You have my condolances.
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Thank you Petrie for your concern.
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I know how you feel, mate
I've lost a pet too, and the day he died is rather one I'd like to forget. Not to dishonor him, but to forget the pain. I'll never forget him, however nor should I.
Never forget him, mate
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Wise words to live by...and I feel the same. Thank you.
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take it easy for some days, but remember: life is nothing without the death,
but you got my condolances,
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I'm really, really sorry Great Valley Guardian :(
The death of a dear pet can be really upsetting. There is no comfort in the fact that you are not alone with that experience, but because of this many here know how you are feeling.
My bird Luke died on my last birthday. I was all screaming and crying my eyes out that evening, but that doesn't mean that this grief was worse than another time when I did not cry.
Crying is something that may be an expression of grief, but the absence of tears doesn't mean absence of emotion or lack of care Guardian. When my grandpa died (unexpectedly as he was very healthy and active and "only" in his mid 70s) I did not cry. I loved him very, very much and I was very sad. I felt so dreadfully sorry for my grandma too (he died during the holidays so nobody else from the family was with her for about a day), but I hardly cried. That grief was of a different kind, a grief that didn't need tears. I don't know why it is that sometimes I will flood the surroundings with tears while sometimes, in moments of no less intensive grief I won't shed any tear at all. But I don't think that the presence or absence of tears is something to be ashamed of or to feel uneasy about. We know what we feel and those who are close to us will know and maybe so do those whom we are grieving for.
Not to shed tears does not make you a "bad owner" to Rexington J. Lee.
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I still can remember, how depressed was i, when i lost my cat pet by an accident. My sincerest condolence, The Great Valley Guardian. :(
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I'm sorry for your loss, Great Valley Guardian. I've lost a few pets and my current Hamster is about to die of old age sometime soon. I'm sure that won't be a good day, but it's never a good day when a close pal is lost. :(
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Aww, GVG, I'm so sorry . Having lost a ton of pets, I know how depressing it is. *fivecatsallthreelizardstoomanyfishhamsterallmicedefinatelydead*
No, you're not a bad owner if you don't cry for it's loss. Out of all my pets, I've only cried for two. One lizard and the kitten which lasted only three days with us (two days old and pretty sick). The lizard...I found half of her body ON MY BED! I was definately upset...and I screamed when I saw her .
Good luck on your road to recovery
Dead male snakes are not a pretty sight :blink: ...
*thinks of own snake* :(
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I feel your sorrow. I love snakes.
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I'm very sorry to hear about Rex. No, it doesn't make you a bad owner; whether you cry or not is no sign of how much you care about your pets. This is a terrible tragedy.
I hope I'm not being insensitive, but may I suggest that you wait a while, and then get another snake? This is a classic piece of advice dished out for the owners of dogs, cats, everything, and I don't see why it shouldn't apply to snakes. The usual reaction will be for you to say "No, no other snake could ever replace Rex." That of course is perfectly natural and indeed true, but it would still be good for you to share your love with another snake after a while, in honour of your passed away companion.
I'll say it again: I am very sorry to hear this terrible piece of news, but not half as sorry as I expect you are. Ther best of luck to you.
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A very sad event indeed. You have my condolences. Not crying at a loss like this does not mean you are a bad owner. Some people respond to grief in different ways at different times depending on the circumstances, the individual, or even other factors that many are never aware of. You'll find your own way through this grieving period with many here and on other forums and IM that you may visit and use as well as friends and family in Rl. good luck.
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I'm sorry to hear that, man. You have my sympathy.
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I feel your loss, too, GVG. I haven't gotten a pet since my first goldfish died over 5 years ago. He lived for 3 years. Once I get a home of my own, I may get myself a new pet. Either a dog or a large tank of various fish. I wonder if you can really be able to afford a shark... :blink:
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I'm so sorry Great Valley Guardian. :(
Hang in there, it wasn't your fault. What happened didn't make you a bad owner.
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Thank you all for your concern and opinions. I do miss him very much...but he will always be in my heart, and that I'm sure is what matters most. Again thank you all for your concern and sympathy.
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Sorry to hear about your loss, pal. I don't really know how it feels to lose a pet, and the closest I've come to losing family was my Grandfather, who died three years ago. I know how badly that hurt, and I hope that time heals the wounds in your heart. My deepest condolences. :( :cry
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Just talking about it today has made me feel better,thanks for your input Dante.
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I know what it's like to lose someone close too you. I wish you the best luck as you cope with this loss. Keep your chin up high, and you'll come out ok. :(
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You have my sympathy too mate.
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My sincerest condolences, GVG. It is not easy to lose a loved one, even pets. I may be a caregiver(nurse aide), but I can tell ya first thing that one never overcomes the sorrow a death can bring him or her. I'm only 21, but this is my list of lost loved ones, and the age I was when they died:
Grandmother-age five
Friend of the family-committed suicide when I was nine
Litter of baby hamsters-age ten
Grandfather-age ten
Two adult hamsters-age eleven
Grandmother-age fourteen
Grandfather-age seventeen(he had lung cancer and I was his caregiver)
Marge-my grandmother's cat I took in after she passed-age seventeen
Molly-my first dog. She was a beautiful Cocker Spaniel-age seventeen
T-Bone-my fourth dog(the other two are Cockers, and they're still living). He was a recued black Lab-age twenty
Uncle-terminal with lung cancer. May die this year
I've also lost several fish along the way, as well as several patients I grew close to. What I'm trying to say is you're not alone, GVG, and as we age we will see death more and more often but must accept that our loved ones are in a better place looking out for us here. Rex is probably hosting a party in heaven as we speak :yes.
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Thank you for the kind words, and yes I did realize that when Rex died...it was a highly sad moment, but knowing that I had the honor of caring for him and loving him like a member of my family. I am sorry to see your list of losses. It is never easy...that much I do know. And the thought of Rex holding a party had crossed my mind in the most unique place...MY College classroom! It actually brought a smile to my face as I studied for my finales.
Once more thank you for your concern, and I am proud to see your strength in the face of our darkest moments. Thank you again.
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My feelings are with you.
I know how it feels to loose a friend :(
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Sorry to hear this GVG. You sure aren't a bad owner. A bad owner would just throw him away and never even would think about putting a message up here...
My condolences.
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MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT!!!!
In the wake of my first loss...I gotta say I didn't see this coming! And by this I mean the 3 foot BOA CONSTRICTOR my folks got for me! This is the greatest day...like ever! (At least for me.)
This particular Boa is a female, and untill I get around to giving her a proper name...her nickname will be 'Sweetie'
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Wow. Having Boa as a pet, that is something really amazing... I guess. :yes
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:^.^: Heh.
Glad to hear that, Guardian! Hope the two of you get along well! :P: :D
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@ Cyote_A: Yes...she has quite the grip when her tail is coiled around my arm. :)
@Starfall: Thanks! We do! :D
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Congrats on having a new Boa! I wish you two the best! :)
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Congrads on getting your new pet.
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I'm happy for you! Boa's are beautiful beings! I'm sure you'll be friends!
I would never, ever be able to have a snake as a pet though, I'm scared like * of snakes! :lol:
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Congratulations from me to on getting a Boa constrictor. Once, when i was at my local Pet Store, and behind a large glass wall were many smaller glass boxes containing various animals, insects, et.c There was a Boa Constrictor in one of the boxes, and i walked away then came back to the glass window to see the Boa had popped out of it's glass box and was slowly heading towards a Rabbit, and i had to get one of the people working there to put it back in it's box. I was actually thinking i was going to see a Rabbit get eaten in front of my eyes. :blink:
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That's great to hear that you got a new pet and I hope that you will grow to love 'Sweetie' or however you will call her just as much as you loved Rexington J. Lee. I'm sure you would get along fine with my father. He loves snakes too, though he doesn't have one as a pet.
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My mother's afraid of snakes, though I've tried to tell her they're just legless lizards. Just imagine a lizard without limbs, and you've pretty much got it. Anyway, glad to see that you've got another pet, Great Valley Guardian. Over the years, I've lost a few fish - though the rest of them were given away, I think - a cat, and another one ran off - and we had to give the other two away to a good friend of mine, who had to, eventually, give them to a good friend of his - and I've had seven birds, three of which are still living. All parakeets except for... Bay... (Short for "Baby," none the less...) An English Budgie. Being around keets most of my life, ya know, they're kinda small, so when I saw this variation of keet that was like, three times the typical size... I'd heard of them, but I absolutely fell in love with her... ...It was a grand *gulp* seven months... ...I'd rarely, if ever, cried over the death of a pet, but that hit me hard. She must have slipped off the perch one night, and broken her neck. She was still alive into the next day, until that evening, when lack of food finally caused the eternal sleep of time... To at last come over her... I didn't cry then; I needed to be strong for my mother. It was before that time... Praying... Asking Yahweh to spare this... But I knew that wouldn't be right... How selfish I was. Fortunately, He did not grant my request... (I couldn't even bury her for a MONTH; kept her in a box, out in the cold storage unit... I also wrote a poem about losing her; perhaps I'll post that one soon... She's buried at my other grandma's house, in the back yard. Sometimes, I look out back, to the place... And reminisce. I remember doing that after the end of that Total Lunar Eclipse we just had, about two months ago...) So, Great Valley Guardian, I can totally understand what you've gone through. I'm sure most of us here can. It's no fun when a pet dies... It's very heartbreaking... But, best wishes with your new friend...
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Glad to hear it, GVG :yes. I'm sure Sweetie will make a great chum ;).
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Going to take a picture of your new pet? Some here may want to see her.