The Gang of Five
Beyond the Mysterious Beyond => The Fridge => Topic started by: NeptuneNavigator2001 on March 31, 2009, 12:44:15 PM
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Well... I got a bittersweet piece of news today... One of my grandpas died. The one I don't get to see often... At around 7-ish this morning. Kidney failure. I find myself sitting here, in a bit of a shock, but the realization has hit that I never got the chance to see him recently, so close to his passing... And that hurts the most... :( ...Well, he's with Yahweh-shua now, blessed be El Shaddai... :^.^: ...See you up there, grandpa. Bye bye... *sniff*
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Aww that's sad. Hope you're doing okay Aaron.
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Aww that's sad. Hope you're doing okay Aaron.
Thanks, Iris... I'm okay, I think...
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Sorry about that NN. :( *hugs* :cry
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Sorry about that NN. :( *hugs* :cry
Rat_Lady7.... Thank you... *hugs back*
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My deepest condolences on your loss. How old was your grandfather?
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My deepest condolences on your loss. How old was your grandfather?
Oh, Nick... The only admin I'm unfamiliar with, besides Littlefoot1616... My grandpa was, oh, in his early 80s I think.... If not that, then very late 70s.... Thanks for asking...
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the aberage male lives to be 76, so your grandfather lived longer than that. I know it hurts, I lost 2 of my relatives witin 2 weeks of each other in 2006, one we knew was dying, the other took us completely by surprise. one of them , my uncle had brian cancer, and my aunt had complications from gastrobypass surgery. Both were in their late 40s shhe was 46, he had just turned 49. needless to say that fall was a huge downer..
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the aberage male lives to be 76, so your grandfather lived longer than that. I know it hurts, I lost 2 of my relatives witin 2 weeks of each other in 2006, one we knew was dying, the other took us completely by surprise. one of them , my uncle had brian cancer, and my aunt had complications from gastrobypass surgery. Both were in their late 40s shhe was 46, he had just turned 49. needless to say that fall was a huge downer..
Yeah... My apologies for your losses too... Yeah, it's not easy... One minute you're here, and the next, you're dead. No fanfare, nothing... Just dead... Reminds me of how precious life really is....
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It hurts now, but in timeb you'll remember the good times.. we lose the ones we love as we get older, we can't change that.. All we can do as make the most of the time we have with them..
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I am very sorry to hear about you loss, Aaron! :(
I hope you're feeling better than this morning, and that the worse sorrow has passed you. Take care, and you have my best wishes.
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I am very sorry to hear about you loss, Aaron! :(
I hope you're feeling better than this morning, and that the worse sorrow has passed you. Take care, and you have my best wishes.
Gustav, thank you...
Nick; no, we can't change it... You're right... How precious is life... Yet sadly, the good times... They just weren't many.... Kinda like with my dad. Not to bring him up here, but I haven't had a lot of time with him either in my life... Oh well, I guess that's how it goes...
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Hold on to what good times you did have.. you'll remember them more clearly as time passes and the stories are told and retold..
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My condolences to you Aaron.
It is a sad thing we often tend to realize how precious a life is and how much a person means to us when the person is gone :(
Everyone ought to think of the important things to say and questions to ask their grandparents as it really, really hurts if, after the passing away of a beloved person one realizes how much was left unsaid or unasked :cry
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My condolences to you Aaron.
It is a sad thing we often tend to realize how precious a life is and how much a person means to us when the person is gone :(
Everyone ought to think of the important things to say and questions to ask their grandparents as it really, really hurts if, after the passing away of a beloved person one realizes how much was left unsaid or unasked :cry
Wise words, Malte... Wise words... There was not a lot we really did, sadly, me and him... We barely knew each other, except from stories I've heard...
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My condolences to you Aaron.
It is a sad thing we often tend to realize how precious a life is and how much a person means to us when the person is gone :(
Everyone ought to think of the important things to say and questions to ask their grandparents as it really, really hurts if, after the passing away of a beloved person one realizes how much was left unsaid or unasked :cry
I have that these days when I feel like asking my grandpa on history subjects... Since he experienced the second world war himself he always told stories and explained stuff to me as a kid. I usually feel like asking him something, then I realize I can't. Yea, that's quite a pain sometimes.
And well aaron, even if you didnt know your grandfather too well, I'm sure you somehow had a bond with him.
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And well aaron, even if you didnt know your grandfather too well, I'm sure you somehow had a bond with him.
...I wish I could say it was more than just "I love you..." But I can't. We never did anything together, directly. Saw him maybe, five, six times in my life? Yeah, that hurts...
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Hello:
I'm sorry about your loss, but you may remember that a person is only truly dead when we forget them. So he will be with you as long as you remember the times you spent with him and the things he taught you.
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Hello:
I'm sorry about your loss, but you may remember that a person is only truly dead when we forget them. So he will be with you as long as you remember the times you spent with him and the things he taught you.
Which, though wasn't much to me directly, I can get it second-hand through others. It's just reality. Things happen. I learned more about him from my mom and aunt than himself directly. But yes, his memory will live on. :)
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It is hardest on those left behind. Often one can find help in making it through the hardest times being with or talking to close family members and or close friends.
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It is hardest on those left behind. Often one can find help in making it through the hardest times being with or talking to close family members and or close friends.
Yeah, and that's what we're gonna do...
Hmm, this April Fool's joke (the changing of the board's appearance) is unconvincing, on a side note. :p Of course, that's probably because I know the pattern, and have long since grown out of the whole April Fool's thing. :p
EDIT: Wait, WTH? :blink: I just saw something weird... :p Nevermind, I'm staying off GOF tomorrow! :p
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Wow...that's a big loss. My condolences and sympathy. My great-grandfather (who I saw maybe ten times in my life) died recently as well, so I have an idea of how you feel. He seemed like a really interesting guy too...with a name like Johnny Angel he'd have to be.
Sorry, I'm getting off topic. Once again, my condolences.
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Wow...that's a big loss. My condolences and sympathy. My great-grandfather (who I saw maybe ten times in my life) died recently as well, so I have an idea of how you feel. He seemed like a really interesting guy too...with a name like Johnny Angel he'd have to be.
Sorry, I'm getting off topic. Once again, my condolences.
That's okay. I got off topic a little too... :p
Thanks. It's not easy, but I'm hanging in there. :)
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I am so sorry for your loss. I know exactly how it feels to lose someone close to you, especially a grandparent. Time heals all wounds, so take your time :(
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i'm so sorry for you that you just lost your grandpa............i know how it feels to lose someone... :cry :cry2 :cry
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As close as you guys were I feel sorry for you. Buts shes alive somewhere in the after life.
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Thanks guys... Oh, and NeoGenesis005, it was my grandfather, not my grandmother. Just clearing that up. :p
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I'm terribly sorry to hear of your loss, NeptuneNavigator2001 :cry. It really does hurt when a loved one passes on. My last living grandparent passed a month after I turned seventeen. He had been diagnosed with lung cancer two years before, and I took care of him during the last year of his life. The chemo had done a number on him and he could not care for himself. It was hard to see him go like that. I was even with him when he passed. He was not he first loved one I had ever seen die in front of me, and such a sight has never frightened me, but it was still sad. Perhaps the most touching memory I have of him took place just before the diagnosis, when he asked me to ride with him in a WWII aircraft similar to the one he had been in during the war. I had never seen him any happier, and I don't regret going with him whatsoever. The point I'm trying to make is to look back on the good times ya had with him. Nobody and nothing can take those memories away, and that is how our deceased loved ones live in us. It seems like you're feeling a lot of regret right now regarding the few visits ya had with him. I'm certain he's up there right now wishing you'd not have any regrets. He most likely knew he was loved, and it's better having been loved than never loved at all. Well, just know we're here for ya anytime ;). Take care of yourself now.
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I'm terribly sorry to hear of your loss, NeptuneNavigator2001 :cry. It really does hurt when a loved one passes on. My last living grandparent passed a month after I turned seventeen. He had been diagnosed with lung cancer two years before, and I took care of him during the last year of his life. The chemo had done a number on him and he could not care for himself. It was hard to see him go like that. I was even with him when he passed. He was not he first loved one I had ever seen die in front of me, and such a sight has never frightened me, but it was still sad. Perhaps the most touching memory I have of him took place just before the diagnosis, when he asked me to ride with him in a WWII aircraft similar to the one he had been in during the war. I had never seen him any happier, and I don't regret going with him whatsoever. The point I'm trying to make is to look back on the good times ya had with him. Nobody and nothing can take those memories away, and that is how our deceased loved ones live in us. It seems like you're feeling a lot of regret right now regarding the few visits ya had with him. I'm certain he's up there right now wishing you'd not have any regrets. He most likely knew he was loved, and it's better having been loved than never loved at all. Well, just know we're here for ya anytime ;). Take care of yourself now.
Well, Cancerian Tiger, it's my caring side. My problem is, I think I care too much, if there is such a thing, though, I don't personally believe such a thing can ever be true. Looking at the opposite end of the spectrum of caring, there are those who would kill another person without a second thought. So, I don't believe one can care enough about/for another one. I commend you however, for caring for your grandpa, as, despite my caring side, I lack the patience, endurance, and self-assuredness to care for an ailing person. *remembers the last day of living with his mom >.<* Yet, my emotional sympathy and love towards people is pure devotion. And yeah, I do have regrets. I just wish I could say I did some things with him, but it's so little. However, you are right about the love. I appreciate the support. :)
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Hey all; thought I'd update this thread instead of making a new one.. :p
We just had grandpa's memorial this weekend. :) It turned out exceptionally well; I believe, just how he would have wanted it... :) Turns out he was quite the jokester as well, apparently. :p LOL. :D I heard several stories about him as well.... ....Later on, my aunt and uncle, cousin, and I, stopped by his house... It was different to see the house so bare from what I'd remembered of my last visit a few years ago. Saw the kitchen and I almost cried; that was the only thing I'd remembered well enough from my last visit that still looked familiar enough..... I took a picture of it with my cell phone. :) ....Seems I was very blessed to go there though, as we stumbled upon his old record collection. :) We took them with us, and after our move next month, my aunt and I will go through and divide it between ourselves. :)
We're going to spread his ashes in the summer. It was a place he loved. I don't know the name of it, but it's an all-day hike. :p Oh boy. :p I'll go then, as I went now; to honor his memory (regardless of my cold, or my wisdom tooth which is acting up; well, I'll have it out by then :D). ...I just thought I'd better write something better here, seeing as the memorial was such a success... :)
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Well, I'm glad to hear the service went well. Maybe this will provide closure, if y'all haven't had closure yet.
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Well, I'm glad to hear the service went well. Maybe this will provide closure, if y'all haven't had closure yet.
I'm certain it will. :) In time... :) Thank you. :)
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That's very nice. I remember from my grandpa's funeral that it was very special to see. My english is not advanced enough to talk about death yet, but I know you'll understand. I hope that the day in the summer will be a nice sunny one so that you all won't have to walk in the rain. :)
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That's very nice. I remember from my grandpa's funeral that it was very special to see. My english is not advanced enough to talk about death yet, but I know you'll understand. I hope that the day in the summer will be a nice sunny one so that you all won't have to walk in the rain. :)
Thoughtful of you to say that, Mumbling. :) Yeah, it was special. :) I'll be sure to get a few pics of that day... The place, at least. :)