He's gone...

The Great Valley Guardian · **on:** April 16, 2008, 01:09:09 PM

My pet Corn snake Rexington J. Lee died last night at around 8:42, but wasn't realized until around midnight. I loved him like a little brother, and although I will have my memories of the time we shared...but to just know that I won't be able to hold him in my hands again tears at my heart, even now...I want to cry I really do...but out of love and respect for him...I can't...does that make me a bad owner?

Just thought I share this with you all.

Petrie. · **Reply #1 on:** April 16, 2008, 01:18:34 PM

Never easy to lose a loved one, pet or relative. You have my condolances.

The Great Valley Guardian · **Reply #2 on:** April 16, 2008, 01:41:05 PM

Thank you Petrie for your concern.

Vilstrup · **Reply #3 on:** April 16, 2008, 01:54:29 PM

I know how you feel, mate

I've lost a pet too, and the day he died is rather one I'd like to forget. Not to dishonor him, but to forget the pain. I'll never forget him, however nor should I.

Never forget him, mate

The Great Valley Guardian · **Reply #4 on:** April 16, 2008, 01:55:23 PM

Wise words to live by...and I feel the same. Thank you.

kjeldo · **Reply #5 on:** April 16, 2008, 02:02:04 PM

take it easy for some days, but remember: life is nothing without the death,
but you got my condolances,

Malte279 · **Reply #6 on:** April 16, 2008, 02:14:12 PM

I'm really, really sorry Great Valley Guardian

The death of a dear pet can be really upsetting. There is no comfort in the fact that you are not alone with that experience, but because of this many here know how you are feeling.
My bird Luke died on my last birthday. I was all screaming and crying my eyes out that evening, but that doesn't mean that this grief was worse than another time when I did not cry.
Crying is something that may be an expression of grief, but the absence of tears doesn't mean absence of emotion or lack of care Guardian. When my grandpa died (unexpectedly as he was very healthy and active and "only" in his mid 70s) I did not cry. I loved him very, very much and I was very sad. I felt so dreadfully sorry for my grandma too (he died during the holidays so nobody else from the family was with her for about a day), but I hardly cried. That grief was of a different kind, a grief that didn't need tears. I don't know why it is that sometimes I will flood the surroundings with tears while sometimes, in moments of no less intensive grief I won't shed any tear at all. But I don't think that the presence or absence of tears is something to be ashamed of or to feel uneasy about. We know what we feel and those who are close to us will know and maybe so do those whom we are grieving for.
Not to shed tears does not make you a "bad owner" to Rexington J. Lee.

Coyote_A · **Reply #7 on:** April 16, 2008, 02:30:50 PM

I still can remember, how depressed was i, when i lost my cat pet by an accident. My sincerest condolence, The Great Valley Guardian.

Mornai · **Reply #8 on:** April 16, 2008, 02:34:38 PM

I'm sorry for your loss, Great Valley Guardian. I've lost a few pets and my current Hamster is about to die of old age sometime soon. I'm sure that won't be a good day, but it's never a good day when a close pal is lost.

Ptyra · **Reply #9 on:** April 16, 2008, 05:08:50 PM

Aww, GVG, I'm so sorry . Having lost a ton of pets, I know how depressing it is. *fivecatsallthreelizardstoomanyfishhamsterallmicedefinatelydead*

No, you're not a bad owner if you don't cry for it's loss. Out of all my pets, I've only cried for two. One lizard and the kitten which lasted only three days with us (two days old and pretty sick). The lizard...I found half of her body ON MY BED! I was definately upset...and I screamed when I saw her .

Good luck on your road to recovery

Dead male snakes are not a pretty sight :blink: ...

*thinks of own snake*

lbt/cty_lover · **Reply #10 on:** April 16, 2008, 05:09:50 PM

I feel your sorrow. I love snakes.

Clawandfang · **Reply #11 on:** April 16, 2008, 05:19:18 PM

I'm very sorry to hear about Rex. No, it doesn't make you a bad owner; whether you cry or not is no sign of how much you care about your pets. This is a terrible tragedy.

I hope I'm not being insensitive, but may I suggest that you wait a while, and then get another snake? This is a classic piece of advice dished out for the owners of dogs, cats, everything, and I don't see why it shouldn't apply to snakes. The usual reaction will be for you to say "No, no other snake could ever replace Rex." That of course is perfectly natural and indeed true, but it would still be good for you to share your love with another snake after a while, in honour of your passed away companion.

I'll say it again: I am very sorry to hear this terrible piece of news, but not half as sorry as I expect you are. Ther best of luck to you.

Kor · **Reply #12 on:** April 16, 2008, 07:28:02 PM

A very sad event indeed. You have my condolences. Not crying at a loss like this does not mean you are a bad owner. Some people respond to grief in different ways at different times depending on the circumstances, the individual, or even other factors that many are never aware of. You'll find your own way through this grieving period with many here and on other forums and IM that you may visit and use as well as friends and family in Rl. good luck.

General Grievous · **Reply #13 on:** April 16, 2008, 07:32:12 PM

I'm sorry to hear that, man. You have my sympathy.

Mirumoto_Kenjiro · **Reply #14 on:** April 16, 2008, 08:05:09 PM

I feel your loss, too, GVG. I haven't gotten a pet since my first goldfish died over 5 years ago. He lived for 3 years. Once I get a home of my own, I may get myself a new pet. Either a dog or a large tank of various fish. I wonder if you can really be able to afford a shark... :blink:

Timehopper · **Reply #15 on:** April 16, 2008, 08:10:54 PM

I'm so sorry Great Valley Guardian.

Hang in there, it wasn't your fault. What happened didn't make you a bad owner.

The Great Valley Guardian · **Reply #16 on:** April 16, 2008, 08:29:05 PM

Thank you all for your concern and opinions. I do miss him very much...but he will always be in my heart, and that I'm sure is what matters most. Again thank you all for your concern and sympathy.

StarfallRaptor · **Reply #17 on:** April 16, 2008, 09:18:51 PM

Sorry to hear about your loss, pal. I don't really know how it feels to lose a pet, and the closest I've come to losing family was my Grandfather, who died three years ago. I know how badly that hurt, and I hope that time heals the wounds in your heart. My deepest condolences.

The Great Valley Guardian · **Reply #18 on:** April 16, 2008, 09:45:25 PM

Just talking about it today has made me feel better,thanks for your input Dante.

LBTFan13 · **Reply #19 on:** April 16, 2008, 10:05:27 PM

I know what it's like to lose someone close too you. I wish you the best luck as you cope with this loss. Keep your chin up high, and you'll come out ok.