Huh. That’s an intriguing point. Well, I can’t speak for others for certain. I for one I’m fine with seeing my name in a post but not voted for. However, I have unusual tolerance in a lot of areas. What does not bother me in the slightest, I have learned can really upset other people. So then, I will try to do my best to assume how others might take this.
Have you ever been to a school where, during recess, the kids decide to play a sport, so they nominate team captains, and they taken turns picking the kids they want on their team? I feel that the topic of this thread is like when there is only one other left to choose from. When you’re there, standing with the other kid, seeing a captain’s eyes shift between you can be a little nerve-wracking. You realize that the captain is thinking long and hard about which one of you two is better, or in more accurate terminology, who is superior in that field. Now, if you realize that you’re not very skilled in this area, you likely won’t really care or be bothered if you are picked last, when someone else has been dubbed superior to you, in a sense. But if you have some pride in yourself, if you really believe in your own abilities, seeing someone picked when you know you’ve been considered might hurt, even if that person won’t admit it to anyone. Who would, really? Expressing personal feelings about someone being proven to be better than you at something can be an extremely difficult thing to do. Even if a captain picks the other right away, which is my allegory to Jansenov’s view, the fact that you and another have been carefully considered, and you’ve been found lacking in comparison, can still be a problem for some.
So my personal response to this is not minding being mentioned in such posts but not being picked. But with the often numb reaction center of my brain, I wouldn’t take how I would feel as any sort of reasonable grounds on which to base how others might take it. I try to put myself in others’ shoes, but without actually being able to be in them, I can’t really say for certain how others will take things.